By
Doyne Phillips, Managing Editor for
Southern Writers Magazine
Morgan
Freeman once said, “It appeared things were passing me by and I wondered why
they were passing me by.” Freeman
was speaking of his career as an actor and the parts he thought he should have
been given but wasn’t. One can imagine thinking as he did, this was a missed
opportunity. Seeing a once in a lifetime chance for a great part gone could be
overwhelming and asking myself, would there be another?
One can also imagine having an intense self-examination of
one’s career path or even career choice. Self-doubt, lack of confidence or even
total abandonment of your path could result. It happens to us all at one time
or another as we are finding our way or fine tuning your craft. So what do we
do?
Freeman
continued onward and soon came to the realization about those missed
opportunities and said, “Well they weren’t passing me by but were happening for
me all along. Providence had said, no this job is not for you.” This is an eye opening and heartfelt statement we all could
take to heart. When that opportunity appears to have passed us by it may simply
be things happening for us but not the way we imagined it happening.
I always considered this to be similar to traveling down the
interstate and an interesting exit comes up. The billboards tell of all the
wonders available to us at this exit. The restaurants, rest stops, historical
sites and entertainment opportunities all appear irresistible. Even more
enticing are the passengers in your car find them enticing and encourage you to
take the exit. You know this is not your exit. This exit will not get you to
your destination. It will only delay your arrival at your determined site. What
do you do?
I find many times I take the exit. I explore and then return
to my original path. I am delayed temporarily but continue on. We all must
explore to find our way but we must not let our exploration turn into 40 years
of wandering in the desert.
The next time you feel you have a missed opportunity think
of it as Freeman did. Providence may be saying this isn’t for you and continue
on to your destination.