Writing and Me

By Kaye Wilkinson Barley

I have written all my life. 

I write to understand.

I write to comprehend my feelings. 

I put those feelings down on paper in an attempt to bring order to the chaos often accompanying  those feelings. 

But it was never for public consumption.  

Not until I was 60 years old.

When I did, finally, at the suggestion of Kathryn Stripling Byer, North Carolina Poet Laureate 2005-09, submit my first piece, it was accepted for inclusion in a regional North Carolina anthology.

It was a piece I wrote while my husband was living in North Carolina and I was stuck back in Georgia for a period of time that seemed unending.  A rough time.  That someone felt as though that piece, written straight from my heart, was worthy of being shared with others was a surprise, and brought some much needed joy.

A statement from one of the editors of the anthology, Dr. Celia Miles, stayed posted on my laptop for years.  “I hope you’ll continue to write,” she said. “You were born to write.  Your writing has honesty.” 

It helped me write the one novel that I had wanted to write for as long as I can remember.  You know the one.  The one that Toni Morrison was talking about when she said, to you, ““If there's a book that you want to read, but it hasn't been written yet, then you must write it.”

I think my writing style comes from simply loving to tell a story. That love of storytelling is how I developed my voice.  And, I’ve been told it’s a distinctive one.   

As far as the craft of writing, I will be the first to admit - I know nothing.  If my writing passes any sort of craft test, it comes from having been a reader since the cradle along with being lucky enough to know some excellent editors who have graced me with their help and expertise. 

I have, of course, read some of the best books on how to write that all writers read.  And I love them.  Especially Stephen King’s “On Writing,” and Anne Lamott’s “Bird by Bird.”  I love and recommend them, but have I learned anything from them? 

Except that one bit from Ms. Lamott about the first draft always being terrible?  I don’t think so.  My fault – certainly not theirs.  My fault because I always find myself reading for the story.  The entertainment.  The simple joy of words, excellence in pacing and beautiful phrasing.  Yep – even in “how to” books.

Learning through reading, for me, comes, I believe, without my conscious thinking.  And, it comes from reading books written by good writers.  Writers like Louise Penny, James Anderson, Margaret Maron, Pat Conroy – along with others.

All that said, I have not one word of advice regarding writing.

Unless you have yet to discover that it can save your sanity.  If that’s the case, then my advice is to write.  Tell a story – be it to friends, family, the public or to yourself.  Tell a story, “the” story, “your” story.  But first, do it for yourself.

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Kaye Wilkinson Barley lives in Boone, NC with her husband, Don, and their spoiled little Corgi, Annabelle. Kaye has had several short stores and creative non-fiction essays published, one photo/story book and one novel; WHIMSEY: A Novel. Kaye and her husband are avid photographers. Her blog, Meanderings and Muses ( http://www.meanderingsandmuses.com/ ), is a place where she shares stories and photos.  Anything and everything from a memory, a book review, a recipe, or a political rant.   

How to Start a Writers Group and Help it Thrive

By Cindy Brookshire

“Isabel’s church seems to split up every five or six years with great drama and many hard feelings,” writes Margaret Maron in her 2010 Deborah Knott novel, “Christmas Mourning.”

Sound like your writers group? It happened to mine.

I helped found Write by the Rails, the Prince William Chapter of the Virginia Writers Club. We started out in 2011 as a handful of writers networking at a local coffee shop in Manassas, Virginia. We established monthly meetings, shared book sales tables at events, produced a New Departures anthology. We crafted bylaws to become a chapter of the state organization. We joined the Prince William County Arts Council and Prince William Chamber of Commerce, applied for grants, hosted Rising Writers workshops, supported George Mason University’s Fall for the Book festival and read to children in schools.

Then I moved to North Carolina in late 2014. The group back in Manassas was experiencing growing pains as its rolls swelled to close to 100 members. Simple tasks, like updating the member list, or sharing the treasurer’s report, weren’t being done. Not everyone was on Facebook, so communication with the whole membership was spotty. Domineering personalities bullied others when they didn’t participate. On the same day two officers resigned in frustration, one writer summed it up: “Not everyone is on the same page on the mission of group and expectations of members.”

At the request of the president, I stepped back in to help. I felt like I was entering an overwhelmed restaurant, where departing sous chefs had thrown off their aprons while a dining room full of hungry customers clamored for food. I rolled up my sleeves and started working. I updated the member list, drafted e-news copy, helped administer the Facebook group, and traveled to Manassas to volunteer and participate in three literary events. I didn’t respond to private messages or emails that tried to pull me into the drama. It just wasn’t productive.

Thankfully, the October 2015 event that the chapter sponsored with the Poetry Society of Virginia, “In the Company of Laureates,” went well. Monthly meetings since then have been peaceful and a fresh leadership team is in place.

I asked June Forte, lifetime member and former president of the Virginia Writers Club for her reflections on the chapter’s bumpy ride:

“Writers groups, as they grow, naturally evolve,” said Forte. “But the officers or administers of these groups have an obligation to consider and balance the entire membership’s interest. If things seem unfair, walking away from the group may turn out to be a self-imposed exile that excludes a member from the comraderie, information and inspiration of fellow writers – the very things that brought the group together.”

“Flexibility is central,” Forte added. “Many successful writing groups create complementary smaller-group writing activities that meet more specific interests: open-mic nights, critique groups, genre-focused meetings, and informal meetups. Other members may want to spend time participating in activities that encourage writing and reading in the community through visits to classrooms, libraries, senior living communities and even jails or prisons. A thriving writers group embraces change; it goes with the flow.”

I wish June Forte and my other writing friends in Virginia a healthy 2016 as the local literary scene continues to expand. June reports that besides Write by the Rails, she has joined a small group of screenwriters that has begun to meet in Bristow, Virgina. My goal: To apply the lessons learned from past experience so I can thrive in my current writers group in North Carolina.

Five takeaways to keep writers’ groups on track:

1. Focus on your group’s mission. Are you a critique group or a networking group? Are you both? Set goals and motivate members to take positive steps to achieve those goals.

2. Share basic knowledge of writing, editing, publishing and marketing with fellow members. Save book sales pitches for exterior audiences.

3. Have a code of conduct. Confront strong personalities and enforce the code. Respect each other. Keep conversation civil, especially on social media.

4. Foster positive community relationships with bookstore managers, news media, etc.

5. As June Forte recommends, embrace change and go with the flow. Be flexible.

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Cindy Brookshire is co-founder of Write by the Rails, the Prince William Chapter of the Virginia Writers Club, based in Manassas, Virginia. (www.writebytherails.org). She now lives in Pine Level, North Carolina and is a member of the Johnston County Writers Group, which meets the second Thursday of every month at 6:30 pm at Selma Public Library, 301 N. Pollock Street in Selma. Her short story, “Loose Threads,” won second place in the 2015 NC Senior Games’ Silver Arts competition in Raleigh. Visit her blog athttps://cookies4nataka.wordpress.com/.