By
Susan Gabriel
Whenever
I run my Fearless Writing for Women workshops, I usually have a waiting list.
Many women who want to write are afraid that they aren't good enough, have
nothing to say and that if they do write something it will be criticized. While
they enjoy writing, and may even love it, the ensuing battle between love and
fear can paralyze them. And, of course, this happens to men, too.
So
is fearlessness the answer? Actually, it was only after I had taught several
workshops that I realized fearlessness isn't the goal. Making peace with fear
is, and realizing its relationship to creativity.
Whenever
we’re being creative, fear is generally nearby. Especially if we hope to put
whatever we create out into the world. For example, I have been writing novels
for twenty years. Two of my novels have been Amazon and Nook #1 bestsellers.
One of them (The Secret Sense of Wildflower) received a starred review from
Kirkus Reviews and was named one of their Best Books of 2012. Yet this doesn’t
stop me from questioning if I’m a good enough writer. Whenever I start a new
novel. I worry (another name for fear) that my imagination will dry up, I'll
have nothing to say and I will have forgotten how to write a good story. However,
I keep writing year after year, and to some I may even appear fearless.
How
do I not let fear stop me? Here's the short answer: I know myself well enough
to recognize the script that runs in my mind and the minds of many creative
folks whenever fear is around. It consists of lines like: You’re (or I’m) not
good enough. Who do you think you are? What will people think? When I hear
those fearful thoughts, I acknowledge them, but I don’t let them stop me. Fear
is a normal part of the creative process and is often temporary. If I get busy
writing, the fear goes away. I’m suggesting that you do the same.
The
fear that keeps us from walking down dark alleys makes sense, but fear during
creative endeavors isn’t helpful. Fear wants to keep us small and safe. Yet the
world needs our creativity more than ever. Keep in mind, procrastination, worry
and perfectionism are fear, too, and are a waste of our creative energy. So
when you feel fearful, remember that you are not alone. Many other writers feel
it, too. Then get busy writing.
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A former marriage and family therapist, Susan
Gabriel is the acclaimed southern author of Amazon #1 Bestselling novels The Secret Sense of Wildflower (named a Best Book of 2012 by Kirkus Reviews)
and Temple Secrets.
Her other books include Lily’s Song, the sequel to The Secret Sense of Wildflower and Grace,Grits and Ghosts: Southern Short Stories. She lives
in the mountains of North Carolina. Author
website: www.susangabriel.com. Author Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/SusanGabrielAuthor
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